Sexual Problems


I believe that our sexuality plays a large part in defining 'who' we are. Put another way, it is a very potent symbol of our identities. Put yet another way, we don't 'do' heterosexuality or homosexuality, we 'are' heterosexual, homosexual, asexual or other.

This is one of two reasons that make sexual dysfunction so troublesome as it questions our very identity.

The second reason is that our culture has placed inordinate amounts of significance on sexual performance and where there is performance there is potential for anxiety, leading to loss of libido, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, anorgasmia and other conditions that make sex a traumatic rather than pleasurable experience.

If you are troubled by your sex life your first port of call should be your GP to rule out any underlying medical condition. Once this is done any remaining cause will be in your mind and that is where Cognitive Hypnotherapy can be of enormous benefit. Whether it is to help you relax, to understand the underlying cause of your tension or the emotions that may be present such as fear, guilt or shame, together we can begin to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem, to see sex as something to be enjoyed fully and not feared or something to run away from.

Other sexual problems are more directly linked to other issues that may be going on in your life such as a fear of intimacy (not the same as loss of libido) stemming from an eating disorder, body dysmorphia or a profound lack of confidence.

If your sex life is on your mind then call me for an initial assessment and to discuss how I can help you.